Don't ever make excuses again

"I didn't have time at all, I got so busy..."

"I just forgot."

"It's the traffic", "my friend didn't let me", "the weather didn't allow me", "I was just too tired..."

So many excuses can come up and make you feel better about not sticking to your word. But are those excuses not just proving that your standards are not that high, that your priorities are somewhere else?

Some people complain because they are not getting better. They complain about their life, about the way things happen to them, about their life situation. But then, when you really look at it, you see that those same people let themselves be "controlled" by life and don't want to take responsibility for what is going on with them. There is always a good reason for them not to stick to higher standards. Always a good reason not to get better. And so they stay where they have always been.

Sometimes they get very depressed because their situation is not changing, but they don't realize that they are the ones creating their own reality. They are the ones who accept to have excuses for whatever is going on. They don't want to step up and acknowledge that they are the ones downgrading themselves constantly.

By accepting those things, they self-sabotage themselves constantly. They are the ones blocking themselves from becoming a better person. They don't believe in themselves. They are convinced that life doesn't help them. But it's just because it is easier to see it that way.

If sometimes you feel this happens to you, if sometimes you know you are not doing the right things and that you find an excuse for that, keep this in mind:

If it is important for you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

So stop giving excuses, because it just shows that it wasn't that important for you.

If you want your life to change, YOU have to make changes. Don't expect for something to change first, or for that to arrive, or for anyone to do anything. No. The change starts in you, with you. Whether it happens or not only depends on you.

Have high expectations for yourself. By setting high standards, you won't let anything happen that will downgrade you. Behave the way the person you want to be would behave. When you say you will do something, stick to your word - or don't say it. And here, I am also talking about when you say it to yourself. Because with time, if you give your word (to yourself or to someone else) and don't stick to it, people will lose faith and respect for you. And you will lose your own self-respect too.

Make that shift within yourself happen, and don't ever look back again. Whether it is in your professional or your personal life, sticking to high standards is crucial and determines who will stick around you. If you want quality in your life, attract it and let your own potential shine.

Don't wait for tomorrow to make the change. Do it NOW. Stop using words like "I'll try", "I can't", "I hope", "I wish". Those words carry a lot of negative energy and already involve some potential excuses that what you want to happen actually won't happen. Because you use those words, you show that you don't really believe in it yourself.

This can be applied to anything in life:

• -At work with clients: You say you will send them something by day D but you don't because of xyz. How will they keep on making business with you if they know you are not reliable?
• -At home with your partner: You say you will do something, but you don't because xyz. How can they trust you on anything you say in the future?
• -At home with your children: You say you will take them somewhere but you don't because xyz. This shows the kids that your word doesn't mean much.

Set your standards high. Make the changes NOW. Believe in the fact that you are much more worth than this.

Do it for you. Don't do things just because you are afraid people won't like you anymore. Your choices are yours, your life is yours. If you want things to improve, start NOW. Stop making excuses. Be that person you want to be.

Making changes means changing your routine. This is how the biggest transformations start: with daily new habits or rituals. Make them count, stick to them. Never blame anyone for your own situation. Learn from previous mistakes, and don't repeat them. If you repeat them, it means you haven't learned your lesson, and it shows that you are just being passive in your life.

YOU have to take ACTION and MAKE IT HAPPEN.

In Love and Happiness,

Stephanie